19 Sep 2016

First date venue and activities

First date venue and activities

She has finally agreed to go on a date with you and you are probably thinking on a few hundred different possibilities on what to do, where to go in order to impress her. My tip is on the first date, keep it simple.

The following two questions will help you decide on your first date venue and activities:

What would you be most comfortable doing? Coffee? Dinner? Maybe drinks after work?
Go with the coffee option if you want to keep it low key. If you are more interested in her then you can ask her out for a lunch or dinner. One thing to remember though, the more comfortable you are, the more comfortable she feels and the better that your date will go.

If you want to ask her out for dinner but don’t want to go all out either but you still want to impress her. I recommend going to a tapas bar. Tapas are light and you can order a few dishes without breaking your bank. There is also something special about sharing a meal that really bonds people.

What’s the easiest for the two of you? If you both work in the city then you guys could go out for a coffee or lunch on your first date. However it would be worthwhile picking a day that is closer towards the weekend, as usually from mid-week onwards people are less busy and by Friday they are already looking forward to the weekend and hence, they will be in a better mood.

If the date goes really well during the week, then you also will have an opportunity to hang out with them again a few days later on the weekend for your second date.

If you want to really impress your date – make sure that you book a table a few days ahead of time!

19 Sep 2016

Successful Dating & how to secure a second date

Successful Dating & how to secure a second date

You have a date set and you’re finally going to meet the person that you’ve been chatting for weeks.

To make your first date successful, we’ve compiled top 7 tips to help you ace your first date and get a second date.

Body language

Body language plays a huge role in forming first impressions of what your date thinks of you.

Follow these tips and you’re on your way to making a good impression on your first date:

Smile – smiling is contagious and it makes people feel at ease straight away around you. It indicates friendliness, openness and it takes down barriers. If your date sees that you’re smiling, they are more likely to smile as well.

Maintain an ‘open’ body language – don’t cross your arms or legs as this will come across as defensive. Instead, lean forward as it shows that you’re interested. Open body language also shows that you’re being genuine, honest and there is nothing to hide. It also signifies confidence which is really attractive in a partner.

Watch your date’s body language – you also want to see the same from your date. However it is perfectly normal at the start of the date to see your date’s body language as a bit closed off as they too would be nervous seeing it’s a first date.

Slowly, you want to see their body language open up which is a good sign that they are also interested in you.

Maintain a good amount of eye contact. This definitely helps you to connect with your date but don’t stare at them for too long as you would come across as being creepy.

For guys – make sure you take care of the bill at the end of your first date. It shows that you’re taking the initiative and girls like to see guys who take charge of the situation.

If you’re the type who would rather split 50:50 on the first date, remember in a few years you probably won’t remember the amount of money that were coming out from your pocket, but you will certainly remember those warm fuzzy feelings if the date went well.

For guys – Line up your second date, before the first one has finished. If during the date you are really interested in her, and you are pretty sure that she is also interested in you, then bring up the topic of a second date. This not only gets your date excited but it also takes away all the post-date stress for both of you, knowing that you have a second date planned.

*Note: this should only be done late in the date just before your first date ended, otherwise you’ll come across as being clingy.

For guys – follow up with her as soon as your first date has finished. This serves two purpose:

• You want to see if she got home OK
• You want to eliminate the post-date stress by hearing from her immediately before your second date

To send a follow-up text is really easy. Just keep it simple and straightforward by saying:
“Make sure you text me when you get home safe”

Then when she gets home she’ll send you a “home safe 🙂” text, which will break that post-date ice.

13 Sep 2016

Tips Optimize Your Christian Dating Profile

Tips Optimize Your  Christian Dating Profile

There once was a time when using Christian dating apps or sites to meet new people was considered as weird or a “taboo”. However in this day and age, meeting potential partners through dating apps is no longer unheard of.

Here we’ll be sharing 5 tips on how to optimise your Holyfire profile so you can get more matches and dates.

1st tip: Make sure that you only use the best photo as your first picture/ profile image
First impression counts and people judge you based on your appearance, whether you like it or not. So put your best face forward by using the best photo as your first profile photo. Your profile picture is the only thing that your potential matches see when they are browsing profiles. Only after they click on your photo will they see your bio or other images.

2nd tip: Your profile photo should only be a picture of you
If you use a group photo as your first image, then users won’t know which one is you out of the group. So save them the time and trouble by using only a photo of you as the profile photo.

You can include a group image, but arrange them more towards the middle section or towards the end.

3rd tip: Use the ‘bio section’ to your advantage

Here you can list some of the things that you’re good at or passionate about but don’t write an essay. The point is that it should be enough to get them to want to get to know you more but don’t give it all away. You don’t want someone to know everything about you even before you meet them.

Always remember this: your bio should be used for one purpose only, that is to start conversations.

4th tip: Want to stand out from the dating crowd? Say something other than just the standard ‘hi’ or ‘hello’
And then expecting to get a reply. If you want to get replies, the best thing is to ask questions about the other person. Asking questions is an excellent way to show them that you’re interested in them and to get the conversations started.

If you don’t get a reply straight away, then wait at least two days before you send them another message. In your follow up message, no need to comment on the fact that he/ she never replied to your first message. Keep it positive!

5th tip: Don’t let the conversations fizzle out
Try to keep the ‘mundane’ conversations to a bare minimum as I mentioned in my earlier post here as you don’t want the conversations to slowly fizzle out. For tips on how to keep the conversations flowing, read my blog on 10 questions to ask on first date.

And if you didn’t get a respond that you want? Don’t sweat it and move on. You don’t need validation from a match and you should be confident in your identity in Christ and what He thinks of you regardless of their response. You need to be secure in who you are and what you bring to the table which is key to any relationships.

If you follow these Top 5 dating Tips, you’ll be well on your way to more matches and dates. If you’re not getting the results that you want, then change your approach. Try different profile images, use different bios or write different starting conversations. Good luck!