I hear this question time and time again, “Why don’t Christian guys make a move?”
“Why are nonbelievers so driven in comparison to Christian men when it comes to asking women out on a date?”
There’s a few reasons to this:
- Men are inundated with choices when it comes to Christian dating.
There are usually more women to men ratio in churches or in Christian circles.
Because of this, it’s so easy to fall into the trap of waiting for “someone better” to come along.
2. Having more options paralyses people.
Imagine going to a grocery store to pick up something. Nowadays, you are presented with a lot of options to choose from – different brands, different flavors, different sizes.. you get the point.
It puts pressure on people to make the “right choice” and “shop around” because now there are so many different things to evaluate before you make a decision. It would be a lot more straightforward if you were presented with say, only 2 options.
3. More choices are not necessarily better.
There are many Christian men who reject the bright, godly and amazing women because they would rather wait for the “perfect person” to come into their lives which couldn’t be more than a figment of their imagination.
They need to open their eyes to the blessings all around them and be courageous to take that next step. For God does not give us a spirit of fear, but of power.
4. Men are struggling with insecurities and doubts.
Men, not just women are also struggling with insecurities and doubts. However it would be worse for men because they are not brought up to “talk about their feelings” just like women do. As a result, they normally keep it to themselves not knowing how to process their past hurt or issues. No wonder for some men once bitten, twice shy. They are afraid of getting rejected again or have this nagging feeling that they don’t measure up.
5. The opposite of fear and doubt is a man of confidence and faith – which is a massive threat to the enemy.
Can you imagine what would happen if all of our men submitted to God’s Spirit and were filled with confidence, power, faith, and strength? It would totally turn our world upside down!
The enemy wants to hold us back, by filling our men with lies that they are not good enough, strong enough, brave enough, or worthy enough. Lies that tell them that they will fail, they will falter and they won’t measure up. So why even bother trying in the first place?
If you are one of these Christian men, then you need to stop believing the lies of the enemy and start having a little bit of faith in God and in yourself.
Trust that God has made you righteous when He died on the cross for you and you have been given everything that you need in Jesus Christ to live the calling that God has placed on you. This could be pursuing a relationship, a ministry, changing your career or starting a family.