16 Aug 2016

10 Questions to Ask on First Date

10 Questions to Ask on First Date

Online Christian dating can be scary… you’ll finally meet the person that you’ve been texting all week. While you’re looking forward to having the first date, expectations usually don’t match reality.

The last thing that you want is being stuck on a bad date, full of awkward silences.

Here’s why we’ve compiled 10 questions to ask on the first date to make your first date interesting and successful.

Tip: Keep every-day, mundane conversations topics like work, school and weather to an absolute minimum.

Having boring conversations that are ‘safe’ because you want the other person to like you is a mistake that most people make. It’s why people would say “yeah he/ she is fine, I think the date went well, but there wasn’t any chemistry“.

The other mistake that most people make in online dating is getting stuck into their personal issues from the get go – pouring their heart out hoping that the other person will understand and sympathise. NO. You are on your first date. The goal here is to present yourself in the most attractive way.

To avoid these pitfalls. Here are some 10 good questions to get the conversation flowing and help you find out more about the other person:

  • What do you normally get up to during the week or weekend? This will give you a good insight on what he/ she likes to do in their spare time.
  • Do you go to church? Which church do you go to?
  • When did you become a Christian?
  • What’s your testimony? Only asks this question if you feel that the time is right. If your date has to go in 5-10 minutes, don’t ask them this question as it might take them a bit longer to explain. Instead, save this as a second date question.
  • What’s your background? This is a legitimate question if your date comes from a different country and you’re curious to find out where they’re from.
  • How long have you been here for? Again, another safe question to ask. This indicates that you’re interested in them and their story
  • What’s your plan? Are you planning to stay here long term This tells you if they have a visa that’s expiring in a month and hence the need to go back to their own country
  • Do you have any brothers or sisters? You can be a bit playful here and based on the previous questions answered, you can guess whether they are the oldest or youngest in the family by saying “well you seem to be quite responsible and mature, I’m guessing you’re the oldest!”
  • What’s one of your favourite childhood memories? Everyone has some favourite childhood memories that they can’t forget. Take time to really explore this and take an interest in it. Let them feel those emotions again.
  • First impressions are always interesting.. don’t you think. Tell me what’s your first impression of me.. I’ll start first This is a good icebreaker but also gives you a chance to be completely honest with your date, but still keep it nice. For example, you can tell them that they have this really bubbly energy that you can’t pick up over text.

The key here is to find topics that are slightly uncomfortable but still interesting enough to get the conversations flowing. However don’t venture into the deeper conversations when you feel that neither of you are ready. Observe your date’s body language. If you feel that he/ she is closing in and/ or feeling defensive. Change the topic. You don’t want to leave the first date with a bad experience. Good luck on your first date!